Thursday, January 21, 2010

Day 146 or I Told You So

So my husband has been wanting me to see a doctor for over a week. But I was convinced that it was merely a virus and the doctor would say that there is nothing to do but wait it out. I hated to waste a co-pay (money is tight!) and well, it seemed a colossal waste of effort. And... I was wrong. (No, that didn't taste very good saying those words). I had an infection that required antibiotics. And now my husband has the power of "I told you so".

Now "I told you so" is usually my territory. And I think that is probably common in a lot of households. I make sure he takes care of himself. I would have sent him to the doctor last week. I would have taken my children last week. As a mom, I wouldn't have thought twice about the co-pay for my children. So the question is why wouldn't I do the same for myself?

I think too often, we moms put ourselves very far down on our to-do lists. And while it is very well-intended, you know where that path leads. Seriously, by putting myself so low on my famous lists, how many other things didn't I get done. If I had broken down and dealt with how badly I was feeling (I didn't blog for five days, for goodness sake!), I would have been up to speed by now. The fact is that I was penny-wise and pound foolish with my health. So in my Spartan-like stubbornness (so maybe I do know where my daughter gets it!), I had less energy to take care of my family or home. In reality, in the name of my family, I didn't just martyr myself, I martyred my family.

So, yes. My husband told me so. And he was right. So I'm going to have to swallow that. But next time, maybe I won't be so stubborn. Because I want to do the best for my family. And because in this house, if anyone is going to say "I told you so", I want it to be me.

13 comments:

Frau said...

Amen to that! I'm happy you FINALLY went to the doctor and hopefully will be feeling better shortly. Sometimes we have to let them have there one told you so! But just once! Have a wonderful weekend.

Sonya said...

I'm glad you went..I have waited waaaay to long on alot of things and then I've actually never gone in for things that should of required a trip to the ER..lol

Now that I live in the netherlands, I can go whenever I like without worrying about a co-pay everytime..not that I ever go..you'd be amazed how doctors over here view us americans.

Get better soon my friend!

chitra said...

I think with so much responsibilities on hand all moms should give top priority to their health. yeah... many a time we neglect our health. .Like the old saying goes 'health is wealth'. Take care dear.

SamiJoe said...

yes, you are totally right. we put ourselves very far down that list sometimes...
Glad you'll be back to yourself real soon!

Momma Such said...

I do the exact same thing. I always say that I'll get over it or that I'm fine. Even when the rest of the family is sick and all on meds I try to tough it out. I think mothers are tough, but we do need to make a point in taking care of ourselves too. :)

AudreyO said...

Hope you feel better soon. Next time though if you go and nothing's wrong then you're back on top with "I told you so"

Tracie said...

I'm glad you went to the doctor. Even if it means that your husband was right. :)

PS I hope you're feeling better soon!

Debbie said...

We moms do tend to put any and everything before ourselves.
But, that still doesn't mean we like it when the man is right:)

blueviolet said...

It's true that we do put ourselves down on the list a lot of times. :(
I'm glad you finally went!!!

Joanna Jenkins said...

Glad you went to the doc. The bugs going around this year have been nasty!

Hopefully there won't be a 'next time" but please, take care of yourself.

Have a great weekend.
xo

Melissa B. said...

Hope you're feeling better soon. And remember...if you put yourself first every so often, the rest of 'em will feel better, too!

Helen McGinn said...

I have an "I told you so" dance.... ;O)

I hope you are ok and feeling a wee bit better, now the antibiotics have kicked in.

Thank you so much for blog visiting me the other day, it was lovely to meet you. xx

Unknown Mami said...

Sometimes the Mommy needs to mother herself.